Flirting is actually intuitive, but it can be hard to do if you have the wrong mindset and don’t understand the technicalities behind it. Fortunately, due to the flirting community, it’s down to a science, so learning how to flirt won’t be that hard after all!

In this article, if you are still confused about how to flirt, two specific flirting techniques will be discussed to help make flirting easier. They are push/pull and a playfully challenging environment.

First of all, when we say that flirting is intuitive, it really is, because when we tend to feel comfortable with someone and like someone, we tend to tease that person in a playful way, or Playfully challenge them.

Think of a younger brother or a close friend. On numerous occasions, you may have made fun of them and even challenged them on something, be it serious or funny, because you knew they wouldn’t hate you for it or take it too seriously.

This will make the person actually like you more, as contradictory as it sounds, and will make your relationship more exciting, since it’s not just an emotion.

This concept applies directly to meeting girls, as for her to feel attracted and turned on by you at that moment, your mindset must be that of playfully challenging her. The idea is to challenge and do it in a fun way, as one or the other could lead to too much friendliness or too much aggressiveness, which alienates girls and humans in general, specifically in a cold approach situation.

Now that you understand this, you should also understand that flirting is mostly about subcommunication and that what you say is less relevant but still has a place in the interaction. Remember this, as this theme will come up again and again in any material you study and in any article you read.

So we set out to play defiantly, So what is push/pull? Push/pull is similar to a game challenge, but can be explained more technically.

Definition:

To explain, push-pull is any statement, action, or mannerism that pulls a person emotionally away and simultaneously draws a person’s emotions toward you.

Ex:

• I hate that I like you.

• You’re so annoying, but you’re kind of charming.

• We wouldn’t get along (classic old school pick up)

Pushing/pulling can also be a bit more creative and complex by giving the girl compliments like teasing.

Ex:

• Why are you so adorable? Stop making me fall in love with you… (she said with a smile but slight annoyance)

• You’re too cute and charming, but that’s why you make me nervous, so I think we can’t talk anymore. (He told her with a smile and a joking tone)

Push/pull can also be done via physical mannerisms. An example is that you could move her closer and then if she says something you don’t like, you move her slightly away or let go of her hand and look away. This will make her chase more and turn her on. When learning how to flirt, you should try to give her a more amazing experience in interaction through multiple channels, and physical is one of them.

Another example is that you can also look for the kiss, wait for her to lunge forward to kiss you, and then turn your head before she kisses you and say “I’m too shy” while smiling and teasing her. This move is obviously done if she was looking at your lips and seemed very sexually aroused.

Now, if you haven’t figured it out yet, because flirting is mostly subcommunication, you can technically say anything and make it a tug-of-war. Your tone of voice, facial gestures, eye contact, and body language can all say a completely different message compared to what you’re actually saying verbally.

Ex:

You: “I think we really hit it off.”

Now this sentence on the surface level is a compliment and not really a tug-of-war or a playful challenge. However, let’s say you said “I think we really hit it off”, but you said it with a tilted head, a slightly skeptical tone of voice, and narrowed eyes as you crossed your arms. The message is completely different and now it’s a tug of war, as the words are drawing her to you emotionally, but the subcommunications are driving her away emotionally as you seem unsure of her.

This concept when used correctly envelops the girl and creates feelings of attraction. However, what they also do is hook their attention on you.

Hooking up is important as during the first few initial moments of the interaction, the girl’s attention will be diverted to whatever she was doing if she can’t see some sort of value in you at the time, or arousal. This isn’t because she’s mean, it’s because she’s just human nature that we won’t focus too much on anything that doesn’t grab our attention or affect us emotionally.

This is one of the most interesting concepts in learning success with women, so go and try it out!

To remember:

• Flirting or jokingly challenging is intuitive and we do it with people we feel comfortable with.

• Push pull is any form of statement, action, or mannerism that simultaneously pushes and pulls a person emotionally away.

• Pushes go beyond words as they are mostly found in subcommunication.

• Flirting is important when meeting girls, and especially in a cold approach, because when learning to flirt, the girl needs to feel aroused so that her attention remains on you for a long period of time and so that you can advance the interaction.