Your relationship with your boy has been full of incredible moments. You can feel the connection between the two of you and it’s incredibly satisfying. However, not everything is perfect and there is a problem that breaks your heart a little more every day. It’s not as open as you’d like it to be. You recognize that everyone is different, but you feel like they are holding back in a way that can eventually end up causing friction between the two of you. You want to break down their emotional walls, but so far you haven’t been able to figure out how to do it. It’s not as challenging as you may think if you have the right perception and understanding of how to attract him in such a way that his emotional flood gate opens and he feels freer to love.

If you want to break down his emotional walls, you have to make him feel safe. Most men are very vulnerable when it comes to their feelings and that is one of the main reasons why they hide their hearts. If a man has been hurt by an ex-girlfriend or lover, he will drop those emotional barriers as a sign of defense. To bring them down, you need to show him that he can really be trusted and that the best way to do this is to help him feel appreciated and loved by you.

Start by respecting your need to have those walls right now. Chasing him, asking him to open up more, will only build a bigger emotional barrier between the two of you. He needs to be brought out of that shell, and compassion and love are the ways to do that. If he doesn’t want to talk about how he feels, never pressure him. If he’s not ready to tell you he loves you yet, be patient. Allow him to work through his insecurities in his own time frame and just continue to be supportive and present.

A man needs to completely trust his partner if he wants to overcome his emotional obstacles. This is why you can never resort to jealousy games in an effort to get a man to break down his emotional walls. It will not work. He is likely to break up with you instead of trying to get close to you. It is much better to be an open book with him and allow him access to all parts of your life. If you do that and stay on course by telling him how much he means to you and showing it to him at every opportunity, he’ll start to soften his resolve and he’ll want to be closer to you too.